Archive | December, 2015

CT Diet

31 Dec

“Yes, but first you have to…”

I follow this blog about minimalist living.  That simply means getting rid of stuff, and not only material stuff.  There are so many advantages to this that there isn’t enough space to sum it up in a few words.  Check out becoming minimalist.

BUT… There was one other thing I wanted to minimize and that was the size of my body.  I had put on a few pound over the last few years and wasn’t getting very far with my efforts to stuff cheeseburgers into my face and lose weight at the same time.  Go figure.

Then, one day while perusing the minimalist blog there was a link to a zen site.  This site had something to do with health and for the life of me I can’t find it again, but I did take away from it a diet/eating plan that not only makes sense but is easy to follow and effective.  The diet is the Crap Ton Diet.  I’m not sure if crap ton is one or two words but I did look it up and a crap ton equals four shit loads.  That’s a lot!

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So here is the gist of the diet.  You can eat anything you want but first you have to eat a crap ton of veggies.  That’s it.  Simple and to the point.  That also goes for snacks.  Want a dish of ice cream?  Fine.  But first you have to eat etc.  Glitches with this diet.  You always have to have a ton or four of veggies on hand and you have to do a bit of prep.  

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You also get the bad news that M&M’s are not a veggie.  Nothing’s perfect!

Loveya – The Grandma

I Believe

29 Dec

“You want to know what you believe about life, look around you.  See what you’ve attracted.  What’s in your life is what you believe.”

I’m not sure where I got the above quote but it’s in a notebook of quotes and general thoughts that I keep.  I’ve been wrestling with this whole idea of my beliefs.  “We live into our beliefs” is another quote that I keep throwing around.

But then I take a good look at my life and begin to question whether I really believe in exercise, in reading good books, in filling my life with people who would be a positive influence.

Another quote that comes to mind right now is, “Heaven is steering and hell is drifting.”  Trying to steer my life but not sure which direction or what I should hold as important.  What should I steer toward in order to live in a state of Heaven?

Enough deep thoughts for today.  I finished my to-do list (my way of steering) except for putting some time in on my art projects.  Will do.

Loveya – The Grandma

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The Day He Left Us

28 Dec

“There is a sacredness in tears.”  Washington Irving

This has been an especially difficult holiday season for the family.  My second son, in his early fifties, lost his struggle with depression and alcoholism and took his life.  He did this eleven days before Christmas.  

You might think that my overriding emotion would be grief, but that’s not true for me.  Grief is in there but it’s mixed in with confusion, helplessness, and anger.  I almost wanted to add relief, but that would seem so heartless and I don’t want to appear to be heartless.  I want to be seen as the grieving mother.

But my son was difficult, headstrong, and a people pleaser.  He was difficult because he didn’t follow the rules about taking his meds.  He was headstrong  because he insisted on doing things his own way, a way that didn’t work 100 times, but a way he was sure, this time, would work.  And he was a people pleaser, forever putting himself last and giving when he had no more to give until he was financially and emotionally bankrupt.  Then his wrecked self would reach out to me or his siblings.    

There were also the good times when his quirky sense of humor would have us all in stitches.  And he was musically gifted and used his gift to make a living and entertain elderly, children, and his friends and family.

I wish I had some brilliant way to wrap up.  Instead, I’ll have to sit with this for a bit longer and find a way through my feelings.  I also want to find a way to honor him and his life.

Loveya – The Grandma

Two Choices

28 Dec

“Life is short.  Jingle your bells.”  Eleanor Brownn

The above quote hasn’t got a lot to do with the subject  of this post but I like the quote so you’re stuck with it.  This post is actually about choices.

My husband got home very late from work and needed to sleep in.  (Yes, this will lead to great information about choices.)  I wanted him to get up before noon.  At a little past 10:30 I went into the bedroom and asked him if he were still asleep.  A version of ask a stupid question.  Yes, Virginia, there are such things as stupid questions.

He grunted.  I told him it was important that he help me make a decision.  I had to go to a neighboring town and pick up some pizzas and if he wanted to come with me we could stop at one of his favorite places for lunch and then go up the block from the restaurant to a chocolate shop for sundaes and then pick up the pizzas, or, I could throw together some lunch at home and then we could go for sundaes and pick up the pizzas.

My husband said that if I were a character in a book I would be a temptress.  I smiled.  No matter what his choice I was going to get, at the least, an ice cream sundae after lunch.  A great sundae, may I add.  He opted for door one.  The lunch items at home could be put away for tomorrow.  

Moral of the story – when giving people choices make sure that either choice is a win for you.  That’s a real win-win.  Or as our pastor said to me, “You are shameless!”

Loveya – The Grandma